If you’ve just broken up with your ex, without wanting the relationship to end for good, you probably want them back right now, if not yesterday.
Everyone feels this way after a break up, but did you know that rushing into things could actually harm your chances of a reunion?
So, slow down and consider what the steps to make this happen will be. It’ll be something you’ll appreciate if your relationship is to be reignited, because it’ll start it with a healthier basis.
Whatever you do, don’t allow yourself to get into a depressed state of mind over things. I know this can be hard, but try to stay strong, so that you can present yourself effectively, when it comes to dealing with your ex.
Accept the Break Up Has Happened
As scary as this might seem, the first stage of getting back together with your ex is to accept the break up. Let them know that you’re okay with the situation. Depending on where you’re at with the process, this may sound crazy, but it’s really important. It’ll ease the stress between you both if you can start the process of moving on.
You’ll both have the chance to consider what you mean to each other, as well as considering your relationship options. This can be the hardest stage of getting over a broken heart.
Don’t Contact Your Ex Unnecessarily
Unless you have something that specifically needs to be addressed, such as childcare, you need to lay off contacting your ex. That means no phone calls, no emails and no text messages. Late night phone messages are definitely out of the question!
While this may seem like a strange suggestion, as you’re trying to win them back, it will give your ex some thinking space. This will be more effective, in getting them to think favorably of you, than an endless stream of contact attempts. You know the old saying ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’? Well, this is one of those times when you want the heart to grow fonder!
Make A Plan To Get Your Ex Back
This is the most delicate and complex of the steps, but successful completion of the prior steps will give you a better shot at getting your ex back.
The key planning points would include considering when you’ll see them, what you’d like to say and also where you should meet. Initial meetings will be key, as they will give you a good indication as to whether your ex still loves you, as well as establishing whether they want to get back together.
Remember that your plan should go pretty slow, in most circumstances. After you’ve made all this progress, over the first two steps, you don’t want to rush in and undo your progress. Remember that love alone won’t guarantee a repair to your relationship; you’ll need to develop a healthy basis for a renewed relationship too.