When a relationship ends it’s not uncommon for one of the partners to go straight into a rebound relationship. This can be upsetting, but how can you make that rebound work in your favour? If you want to get your ex back, here’s some info that’ll help you along the way.
Realize The Purpose Of Rebounds
Rebound relationships have a pretty simple purpose, as they’re there to help someone to get over their partner, without having to confront their emotions.
People who move from one relationship, to the next, without pause, often want to avoid dealing with pain and loneliness. So, they get someone else, to fill the hole left by their previous partner, hoping they can avoid the pain of a break up.
Understanding that your ex is in that relationship, as a way of getting over you, is key to getting your ex back. When they’re in that short term relationship, you remain their real love, and the new person is just a distraction.
What Makes A Rebound Tick?
If you want to save your relationship, you just have to remember that your real love is the most important thing, no matter what caused the break up. If it’s based on love it can be saved. However, it doesn’t harm to understand the most common characteristic of a rebound relationship.
In almost every case your ex’s new partner will be the opposite of yourself. This is a really important indicator. You know how, sometimes, you can just tell somebody’s on a rebound, if it’s friends or co-workers? Whether you’re consciously aware of it or not, it’s that feeling of their oppositeness that stands out.
If you’re quiet and sensitive, expect the rebound to include someone loud and brash. It’s not always that obvious, but you get what I’m saying, of course. It’s a way of focusing on the relationship’s faults, to identify what went wrong. Sometimes, they’ll just be trying someone else out, to see if that helps to identify what went wrong.
So What Can I Learn…?
Pay close attention to the person who your ex, has chosen. This can be a very good indicator of what they are looking for. Remember, they will often go for opposites, but it may give an indication of what your ex is now looking for, or what they thought went wrong.
Casually asking, your most discreet mutual friends, what they think of the new person might also shed some light on their character.
While this rebound relationship is running it’s course, and they’re usually pretty short, you can take the time to learn about yourself. There’s no need to rush in to anything, so pause, and think about what you want out of the relationship.
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Sat, Jun 19, 2010
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