Hi, I’m Rebecca
Thank you very much for finding and visiting my blog. I hope you find it helpful, at what I imagine, could be a tough time for you.
There’s nothing unusual or special about me- I’ve been through the same tough relationship experiences most people have, though any number of previous break-ups failed to prepare me for my last one.
My friends and family are wonderful people but they could only offer advice and suggestions, often in the form of clichés. Unsurprisingly most people aren’t very good at dealing with these sorts of situations.
Most people can’t cope with it…
Ever feel you need more than “Time heals” or “Plenty more fish…”? I know I did. At that time I needed far more than that, I needed solutions and I needed a way to help me to come to terms with how I felt, what I wanted and what I needed.
I felt like my whole world had caved in and I spent my days at work forcing down the pain of a broken heart, only to let it out each night, after work. My only wish, now, is that I’d found a solution sooner.
I knew that I still loved my boyfriend, though it had been clear for some time that the relationship had become strained. I had a clear understanding that I loved him and I was sure he still loved me, so I spent huge amounts of time wondering what’d gone wrong and how it could be put right.
My mind was a daze and I was searching everywhere for answers, but I’d only just worked out what the question was. Finally I could put aside the scary thought of having to make a totally fresh, new start. It was hard to imagine starting dating again, after years out of that headache inducing world.
He was feeling the pain of the break up too…
I found out from mutual friends that he was an emotional wreck too, though he tried to hide it on the odd occasion where we needed to see each other. Of course he was, given the way it ended. There was no cheating or any other reason for things to break down; it’s just that our arguing had reached such a pitch that both of us could stand no more of it.
Sure a lot of it was related to the pressure we were both feeling with our careers, though neither of us really took the time to acknowledge that. Something had definitely gone wrong with our communication, but it takes more than friends and family to deal with something like that.
I do have to give one of my friends a lot of credit though, because she suggested I try to find a book to help me with my situation. I don’t think she knew how useful that advice would be, as I was pretty skeptical, but I thank her anyway.
Many people go through the same break-up issues I went through, and yet it’s rare to find people with the answers to this common problem.
How to get over a break up …
I never imagined I’d find the right book for me while searching the internet, but I did and I’m truly thankful that it happened. For the first time I felt like I had hope, as well as answers and solutions, which are more useful than even the most patient shoulder to cry on.
Best of all I started to see things from his point of view, which was super valuable.
So, I got in touch and we both agreed to work through it. I’m going to make it clear that it didn’t happen overnight but it was a lot quicker, easier and cheaper than counseling. Everything was calm and we really started to communicate, so we were addressing the root causes and sowing new seeds of communication at the same time.
It felt like there was huge potential for things to be better than before, so we both ran towards the light at the end of that long, long tunnel. Now, things feel right again, at last.
Sure we still have the odd disagreement- I want a more traditional wedding than he does! But now we’ll talk things through and come up with a solution that works for us both, without arguing or shouting and I know from other couples that the book can help with all sorts of relationship problems, as long as you’re prepared to see it through.
How to get over a broken heart – the answer!
The book I talked about above was written by TW Jackson and it completely changed my perspective on the relationship. It is called the Magic Of Making Up and features a number of practical exercises you can do today.
Many of the ideas in the book seem counter-intuitive at first but you soon realize your ideas on relationships were not helping your relationship.
I highly recommend you watch this short video with TW Jackson and read what he has to say, right now and I truly hope it can help you as much as it was able to help me.